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When you want to hypnotize a woman, there's something that normally happens, i mean when you are searching for a woman you want to hypnotize, though this may not happen to all men because it rarely occurs. Many men experience it and many more will experience it when they are out to hypnotize a woman. It goes like this, you are in a group chatting with some couple of girls or maybe you are with a friend like one or two drinking at a party or some cool spot, while you are doing this, you have got your eyes on a woman in the group and you really want to make something happen fast like make a connection if you know what i mean. The woman maybe the kind that feels hard to get, she smiles while you are looking at her and talks to you politely and friendly but she is not returning your comments the way you want it, if at all. It's like that woman is playing hard to hypnotize whereas her female friend's seem easy to ride with it.This does not always happen because you are not the type of man she wants, as you know this things always happen or don't but there's a different, the reason might be because the woman you want does not seem to be interested in you and to me it's a thing of psychology and social attitude.

Whenever you show you are interested in a good looking woman who is with her friends, you make her feel too big and she will really love to show off her ego, in her mind she believes that you want her and will like to show this attitude of elevated importance. Meanwhile, she also knows that once she reacts by feeling to be obvious and flirty attracted to you, she will lose the higher values she has over her friends maybe the reason why you targeted her in the first instance, she keeps on her "i am a bit too good for you" status. Probably, you can tackle this situation with what i call deflection theory which is a kind of way to hypnotize women. This is simply a method whereby you twist the situation on her head and turn the psychology of your target woman by deflecting your mind away from her and passing it into one or more of her friends. When you show her friends who has got low social worth or value than the woman you want to hypnotize, you show more affection and closer attention to her friends, you should her ego which she is resisting from you. So in a way to gain her superiority in the midst of her circle friends, the woman you want to hypnotize will subconsciously invest much more interest in you by flirting and being playful, i don't know whether you have noticed this attitude in woman when a man wants to hypnotize or date them, thats a scientifically proven method to hypnotize woman called deflection theory i have said that previously, though it may look confusing but as you read on you will get what i mean.

As a normal character in women, she lets in accepting what she feels she cannot have and of course you will be glad to have that woman. After all she is the hottest in the group of her friends and the woman you've being eying to hypnotize. One of the ways to deflect the attention onto one of her pals is to make the woman you want to hypnotize feel as if her ego has been challenged and won. Thus, is to make her feel an instant and an undeniable desire to get your attention and also win you back.

(1)Try to use a strong eye contact when talking to all of her female friends. Meanwhile, when you are talking to the woman you want to hypnotize, occasionally take your eyes away and towards one of the girls who is busy talking among themselves or maybe to your friends if you are with any at that moment, make a slight smile before looking at the woman of your target. This will hammer a kind of competition into the battling mind of the woman you are really interested to hypnotize and immediately will make her want to gain your attention back.

(2) Casually try to make a kind of close physically contact with her pals more than the way you make with her, e.g touch them on the side of their arms to attract their attention or when joking and laughing.

(3) When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her. Using deflection theory to challenge the ego of a woman youre interested is way to hypnotize a woman and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience.

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On Being New to Men's Work

If you are new to men's work and have never personally witnessed men heal in groups, please know you are in the majority. Most people, including most men and most therapists, have never seen men heal in groups.

If this is you, please know that the best way to learn what we do in these groups is to be personally involved. How? By witnessing and consciously connecting to other men as they heal. This, in fact, is the way men used to pass their wisdom to each other long ago, in their hunting stories and tribal councils, and in the vivid cave paintings of the local shaman.

Through men's work, we each get a chance to reclaim these connections to what is the natural birthright of all men, and of all people in fact; to know with pride and respect each other's worth and wisdom as human beings.

Men do this best through connecting to each other in courage stories. When men heal in groups, this is what we do. We exchange, witness, and experience courage stories.

On Being New to a Particular Group

If you have previously done men's work but are new to the group you are presently in, there is one thing in particular which you may want to do to make your transition into the group easier: allow yourself to be guided by a wisdom taken from the Native American culture, the wisdom that teaches the value and power of silence.

What I am saying is this. Most men today have lost sight of or have never realized the power of silence. They see actions, such as voicing answers and solving problems, as power.

Action is power. But so is silence. And silence is the best and most respectful way to enter a new group of men.

For some, my call to silence may seem simply to be a suggestion to "keep your mouth shut. You are the new guy." This is not at all the picture of silence I am wanting to suggest. The silence I am picturing is the quiet connecting men can do with each other only when they have begun to face their fear of connecting to other men, and especially in the presence of men whom they have never met.

Sadly, since healing can occur only on the stage on which a person gets wounded, most men rarely get to face, let alone heal, this fear. In men's work, they can, by witnessing and honestly sharing with other men their pain and losses, including their fears of each other.

What I am saying is, one of the most important things men gain from doing men's work is they get to face their fear of other men and more important, to heal it. In fact, my most valued personal gain in men's work has been overcoming this fear myself, a gain which has allowed me to see other men as "like me" rather than as "better or worse than me." As this "other men" includes my father, I am especially grateful. Facing my fear of him has allowed me to know us both as good men.

For me, this "knowing" began with the power of silence; with silently looking for what we had in common rather than by mentally assessing how we were different. Said in other words: you do not know a man until you have connected to him; you do not join a group of men until you have connected to the men in this group; and, silence is the best place in which to find these connections.

On Men and Laughter

My favorite healing sound in men's work is men laughing together, especially the enormously powerful loving laughter which often fills a room and signals the end of a particularly painful release of emotion. I have come to see this connected laughter men sometime share as the best ending one can have to a courage story. I also see it as the proof we each need in order to know other men love and respect us, even in our woundedness.

Sadly, many men have been wounded by the sharply painful sound of critical laughter, a sound which humiliates and can actually injure.

Please know, the best men's work always involves loving laughter. Thus, if laughter in painful moments pushes a button in you, please do your best to reserve judgment. You can do this by summoning up all the love you can find in yourself while at the same time, sitting with and trying to see past your painful feelings. If, then, you still can not see the love present in the laughter, please ask for the group's help with seeing the difference. And please don't hold this in. Please don't. Any man outside the group divides the group and diminishes the love present.

My point is this. No man should ever be ridiculed for his pain or his work. But loving laughter is not ridicule. In fact, it is one of the most powerful healing agents there is. As such, learning to hear the difference between the two laughters' is one of the most valuable gains we men can achieve from men's work; to laugh together as brothers rather than to judge each other as men.

On Men and Verbal Exchanges, including "Feedback"

Speaking of criticisms and judgments, we all know criticisms and judgments hurt people, especially in those moments wherein a person finally finds the courage to open up. To prevent this, some leaders in men's groups try to enforce "mechanical silences" before and after men's sharing.

Let me start by saying this. "Mechanical silences" are better than hurtful criticisms and judgments. Thus, they do serve a purpose, especially in groups wherein everyone is new.

What is important to also see, though, is that these "silences" prevent connections. And since the worst pain we men face is the pain of aloneness; the pain of not being connected; then choosing to try to heal alone rather than to risk judgment is a poor choice in the long run.

The truth is, we all need help with criticism and judgment. This is simply a part of all healing work. Even more so, though, we each need help connecting with each other more than we need mechanical isolation. This means we all need to work on our difficulties in and around giving nonjudgmental feedback because no man should ever have to heal alone.

What, then, makes feedback judgmental? Simply this.

Feedback which focuses on the source of a person's problem is always blaming and judgmental. Feedback which focuses on the nature of a person's problem is never blaming nor judgmental.

What is the difference? Let me offer an example.

Many men have been physically intimidated, myself included. In fact, I have a particularly painful third grade scene in which a girl (horror of horrors!) beat me up in front of the whole class. Guess I had yet to learn that girls can be strong too. Sometimes stronger than boys.

My point, though, is that if I were to now try to tell you "why" I thought this painful scene happened (the source of the scene), no matter how carefully I was to voice these ideas, I would be still be blaming. Thus, if I were to say this scene happened to me because my mom, or dad, or the society I was raised in, taught me that good boys do not get in fights, or do not hit girls, or are better men if they take the punishment without flinching, then I am judging and blaming. Why? Because none of these answers will help me to heal. In fact, all these answers do is allow me to temporarily displace the shame I feel for getting this injury in the first place.

What could I do instead? I could simply focus on describing the scene to you (the nature of the scene) without worrying about "why" it happened. Further, I could dramatically improve my chances to heal during this experience simply by focusing on the things I internally can and can not picture. Why this? Because you can always trace the wound itself back to what a person can and can not picture. Translation: the wound is always what you can not see, not what you can see.

Thus, if I were to now picture this scene and focus on its nature, I would immediately see the sunny day, the blue sky with puffy white clouds, and the small, black-topped area just outside the little brick grammar school. And if I were to continue, I might describe to you the ring of kids excitedly playing dodge ball, a circle of six and seven year old girls and boys kicking a red rubber kick ball, laughing and yelling, and connected to each other.

All except me. I was afraid. Now I lose the picture.

Now I regain it and see Susan George, a little girl in a pretty dress, swinging her clenched little fists into my face while I stood there frozen, humiliated, and unable to respond. Now I feel the tears coming. Now I hear laughter. Now I go blank.

Did you notice how my description of the scene's nature touches my injury so much more than my previously posited ideas as to "why this scene happened?"

Feedback which asks for or offers the details of a scene is loving feedback. Feedback which suggests or requests reasons "why it happened" is blaming and hurtful. Worse yet, this second feedback never, ever leads to healing.

Please realize it has taken me a lifetime to even begin to see the difference between these two styles of "feedback." Thus, if you now find yourself struggling to see the difference or even to believe this difference is as important as I am suggesting, please be easy on yourself and give my idea time. More important, during your work, try to notice the nature of what connects you to others as well as the nature of what doesn't. By this, I simply mean, notice the details, not the causes. If you do this, then in all likelihood, you, too, will begin to see the difference between the two kinds of feedback for yourself. More important, you will then begin to be a teacher of this wisdom to other men.

For this reason alone, please do your best to notice. We men desperately need other men, and women, who can help us to heal without blaming and judging.

Steven Paglierani is a writer, teacher, personality theorist, and therapist whose work on learning and human consciousness is read weekly by thousands all over the world. He is the author of Emergence Personality Theory, and his mission is to make the world better for children by restoring and deepening their love of learning.

He can be read or reached at his site, http://theEmergenceSite.com

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I want to share with you that in the physical world, everything is composed of atoms. Atoms come equipped with two things that most of us, as spiritual beings here having a human experience, struggle with on a regular basis: positive and negative. The physical world exists between positive and negative. It creates force and magnetism, which keeps things moving. As we all are aware, but also like to fight against, everything in the universe is in constant motion. Everything, from the smallest sub-particles, to the largest stars, planets and galaxies are always in movement, rotating and spinning, using energy, creating energy, always in relation to each other in some way, depending upon the distance and forces in operation between them. This is the cosmos. It is incredibly vast. Yet, the same basic makeup is used to make up the building blocks of the physical world that we all live and have our being in that are incredibly small. Its a strange place, full of laws and mysteries that have yet to be discovered.

Science has broken through many of the myths and mysteries already, but there is still a great deal that we dont know and may never know (what used to be called The Great Mystery). However, thats not what the focus of this story is about well leave that to those who study it in great detail.

What this story is about is about the positive and negative inside us and how we operate under their influence. Myself, I have had a very hard time getting out of the rut of negativity. Any thing you do over and over creates a path of least resistance and gets easier to do with time and usage. The same is true within our brains. If you constantly (or even oftenly) use negative judgments, it creates a path of negativity. If you rail against the way things are in the world, it creates a path of negativity. If you are critical of yourself and down yourself at every opportunity, it creates a path of negativity (PON). If, no matter what you do, its not good enough and you rarely give yourself credit or praise, it creates a PON. If you berate your looks, its a PON. If theres something you want to do, but because of the PON, youre not doing it, you get a double whammy PON. Then the original PON starts to get offshoots and then theres tributaries of those, and pretty soon, youve got a jumble of negative bull shit in your room upstairs, and its gonna be a struggle to untangle.

I, myself, am heavily involved in the struggle, and have been for some time now. Its like an old rust spot, that no matter how many layers of paint, it keeps bleeding back through. I can only assume that I havent yet reached the original PON, and have only been swimming upstream along the tributaries. Of course, I could be wrong. My PON wants to say: Well, of course, I could be so wrong on this, its not even worth writing about. Arent you writing a book on self-improvement? You dont know enough to be writing a book, you ninny. Whats wrong with you? And thats just how a PON works. As soon as you have a thought, another thought comes rushing in, like a team of prison guards whove been alerted a riot is in progress in Cell Block D (the rioters would be the occasional positive thought).

I wish I knew the real reason why this is so. Its damn inconvenient to think negatively. It doesnt do anybody any good, it stops most of us from even attempting something new, and it creates, at best, a feeling of unease, and at worst, hopelessness that can lead to suicidal thoughts, depression and criminal acts. Yet, we still entertain the little devils and sometimes even fight for their survival and argue on their behalf.

What the____? Our loyalty to a system that brings nothing to the table worth eating is unfathomable. Not only is it not worth eating, but its sheer poison. But, somehow, its become a comfort zone that is anything but comfortable. Its like laying on a bed of nails and pretending its not going to kill us to turn over. Oh, well, if this isnt the bane of the human condition, I dont know what is.

But, now that I give it a moment thought, I realize we do have somewhat of a propensity, a certain fondness for poisons. Every drug that makes you high, from alcohol to meth, is a poison. We seem hell-bent on killing off as many brain cells as we can, especially when young - another Great Mystery. Ive also noticed that the current trend seems to be toward becoming as brain-dead as possible, as is witnessed by so many things: college drink-til-you-drop parties (where people have actually permanently dropped); the Jackass movies (no explanation needed); addictions in every strata of society from soccer moms to models and movie stars to the homeless. Ive noticed many people of little means always have the money to feed their addictions. So, theyre successful at what they do, at least on that level.

Drugs, most likely, when first experienced, most likely give up a charge, drag up a feeling thats different than the everyday. They may even, at their best, give a temporary respite from the barrage of negativity circulating in the brain. But, alas, the feeling goes away, as anyone whose ever chased a high knows. There is no escape from negativity, at least not by means of chemical additives.

It does seem to be a trend that is gaining rather than losing momentum. Why? Whats the thrill in acting like an idiot? Whats the charge in spending money you cant afford to lose on something that ensures youll lose? Its obviously the little demons of negativity at work. And, when you identify with these little demonic dendrites, what you get is what well call the negative ego. It makes sure that being all you can be never happens. One of the conundrums Ive never been able to figure out is why would this negative ego want to do that? If it lives inside us and has its being in our brain and body, why would it choose to destroy its host? I guess once something, anything, is given life, it seeks to perpetuate that life and should it join forces with the positive ego, it would no longer have an identity. Thats why we have to be careful about developing habits. Any habit, no matter how small, will seek to perpetuate itself.

So, if you out there are focusing on other people (your husband, your kids, your boss, your in-laws, the sexy girl strutting her stuff down the sidewalk, the various people you look down on in some fashion), realize this: that is just your own negativity projecting outwards and claiming Id never be like that.

No, not me. Its them, not me, thats in the wrong. But, if you take a closer look, youll find somewhere in there a judgment or an attitude that is appearing to you in the outer world. (Its called mirroring.) Or, if youre really hangin out on the dark side, you wont even be willing or able to recognize this as a possibility, and then you have no hope of changing those persistent little demons into encouraging angels. But, youll have an excuse, so youll be okay. Its always somebody elses fault, and thats enough to make you, no, not happy, but able to accept your life as it stands. I used to think that little cartoon that shows a demon on one side and an angel on the other was just a figment of someones imagination, but then one day I realized it was perfectly true. Huh! Go figure.

So, once again, is there a way out of this morass? We all hope some miracle will take us where we want to be, that some fairy godmother will come along and zap us with her magic wand, that some prince charming will come along to rescue us from the doldrums weve habituated ourselves to in our everyday lives. Ive also been one of those, and in some cases, still am. But, once again, alas, its not gonna happen.

Now that we know more about quantum physics and how it works (that all things exist in potential and are affected by energy), it then becomes clear that theres only one way out: youve gotta change your mind. If you ever, ever, ever want to get out of the bog of negativity, its going to have to be by yourself, within yourself. That doesnt mean you wont have help. That doesnt mean you wont be offered paths that will get you there. It does mean you have to (eek!) actually put your shit on the line and go down the path itself.

You cannot take a drug that makes it look like youre on a path that youre not. You cannot pretend that youre doing the work necessary reprogramming), but really arent. You cannot escape by any means other than getting a good hold on your mind and forming some new dendrites. Youve got to stop the flow of the river of negativity, and place your boat in a positive stream. As there is no darkness in the presence of light, as there is no freedom in the presence of slavery, as there is no hope in the face of despair, there is no positive result in the presence of negative projection.

It aint easy. I believe it was Gurdjieff who called it The Work. Its really the only game in town. Some people even claim its what we came here to do: overcome negativity. Hummmm What a concept! But what a payoff!

So stop settling for what you dont want just because you feel you cant get what you do want. Youll for sure never get it that way, and then you get to do what? Feel sorry for yourself? Get to remain weak and helpless? Blame anybody and everybody else for what you cant or wont do? Judge others, even those who actually are doing what they want to do and are being successful? You can float along on the River of Negativity (whats that river in Hell called?), and upon entering abandon all hope, but as long as youre alive, as long as you have choice, you can change your mind. Thats what youve got to do, so you might as well get on with it. Reincarnation might have been invented for us remedial souls who just dont get it and havent yet gotten it done.

What is mastery? Becoming the Master of your own Mind. God cant give it to you, youve got to get it for yourself. Your free will says you dont have to, but your heart and soul pray you catch on and get a clue, sooner than later. Negativity is a game that gets very tiresome, and its a game at which you cant win.

Michael Webster 301 Forest Ave., Laguna Beach, CA 92651. Ph. (949) 949-7121. Fx. (949) 583-0154. e-mail mvwsr@aol.com. http://www.michaelwebster.net. Mr. Webster is a United States Citizen of Native American Heritage.

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